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[cheese]

I have an interesting question that came up.

What if your DD was told to get ready for practice, we are leaving in a few minutes and she says "I don't want to play soccer anymore, it's not fun, I don't like the coach and we aren't learning anything".
Practices are boring and seem unorganized.

The coach seems to be over extended with a couple other teams and comitments.  Only half the team shows up to practice and the coach is often a few minutes late to practice.

The coach had been talked to a number of times but nothing has improved.

What to do at this point..... :?

[MA]

Ask your kid what they want !!  Okay... talking to the coach is good too.    
I always forget that one since the coach lives in my house.

[cheese]

Ask your kid what they want !!

I would but it's not my DD  :?
Just asking

[monday]

Stick it out.  It builds character.  Also the future is unknowable and the situation will change in a day or two.  Problems tend to solve themselves.  Try to meet the teams expectations rather than the reverse: having the team meet the players expecations.  This shows leadership.

[MA]

Ask your kid what they want !!

I would but it's not my DD  :?
Just asking

I KNOW its not YOUR DD Cheese. hahaha

She loves her team and coach. And my kid had better LOVE her coach. hahahhahahhaha :mrgreen:

[Yes]

That's an easy one.  Call a parent meeting.  Show some backbone.  Handle team problems early with open and honest discussion.

If the coach is running late due to coaching another team, make sure the assistant coaches know when that is going to happen and take charge of the warm up.

Parents are the leaders of their team.  They have to get invollved to make they system run.  Don't treat a paid coach like a babysitter.  Treat them like a professional-which means act don't talk and mumble.  Your DD is on the team, your not in tryouts you have nothing to fear from the coach.

But what if the coach takes out his/her frustration on the girls/boys?  What if my DD loses playing time because I said something?  My question to you is "where will your DD play next year when your team falls apart?"

The coach will play your DD not because you are the nicest parent on the team.  She will play because the coach wants to win the game not make a point.  We don't pay him/her big $$$ to lose games.

[cheese]

Not sure if the coach is paid or not.  I'll have to try and find out. :?

[nosoupforU]

I have an interesting question that came up.

What if your DD was told to get ready for practice, we are leaving in a few minutes and she says "I don't want to play soccer anymore, it's not fun, I don't like the coach and we aren't learning anything".
Practices are boring and seem unorganized.

The coach seems to be over extended with a couple other teams and comitments.  Only half the team shows up to practice and the coach is often a few minutes late to practice.

The coach had been talked to a number of times but nothing has improved.

What to do at this point..... :?

one of the greatest things about youth sports is the lessons kids can learn. To me one of the greatest lessons our kids can take away from sports is commitment. It's easy to be committed in a good situation. If it were my kid I would tell them that we had made a commitment, and we were going to stay with that commitment. When a whole team is counting on each other it's imperative that each member keep to their commitments. It may be a bad situation for part, or the entire year. But it can also go the other way, one kid can make a difference, a bunch of kids can make a huge difference. Parents are our kids #1 role model, if we aren't committed and don't lead by example our kids will emulate us. Any team is going to have bumps along the road. Those bumps can actually draw teams closer, and make them stronger.

[Brian McBride]

For the DD I say they stick it out.   :shock: They made a commitment to play for the team, they need to fulfill the obligation. If your club has another team at the same age maybe try to move if you are having a conflict with the coach. It may be hard to move up though.  
As for the coach talk to them.  :roll:  :roll:  If you don't feel comfortable dealing with the coach, go through the team manager.  If that does not work find someone higher up in the organization.  If you don't address the problems they will not get fixed.  The coach has an obligation the players, and should be accountable paid or not.  

You know Lou Holtz used to say at the end of every practice, " Whose got a problem?"  This allowed the players to vet out any issues.  It also built strength within the team.  If you get the issues out in the open they usually arn't that big and can be resolved.

        BM

[For Keeps]

Answer:  TALK TO THE COACH  :mrgreen:

Address your concerns, get your answers and go from there.  
I know.....scary for some, but just do it.    You have every right to.
If they are a good coach/person, they will appreciate the feedback and concerns and work for a better plan.  
I would have DD follow through with her commitment to the team.
Things will either get better or they will not change.  Look for the positives for DD and talk about it.
Next year.........A lot of GREAT teams to play for!!!   :mrgreen: